Last Friday, before our statewide “shelter in place,” I attended my own therapy session. Sitting in my car, a man approached my door. After instructing him to stay a few feet away from my window, I rolled it down and we began to chat. 💴

He asked for some money for some food. I gave him $5, and we began to talk about the virus. He gave me his theories, while telling me a story of when the power was out over several states and he and some friends drove down to where there was power and light. 💰

After I told him I had to go inside, he thanked me, and I wished him well. I would love to say that this is something I did before all of “this.” That would be a lie. My kindness had more limits before the virus. I’m noticing now that it’s expanding to encompass the needs presented before me. 💵

I am in a position of extreme privilege where I have an education and career that allows me to continue to make money during this global pandemic. Therefore, my last quarantine hack comes from a place where I have the capacity to give, where I know many are physically, financially, and emotionally tapped out. This is my disclaimer.

Quarantine Hack 5: Giving

Giving doesn’t have to be monetary. Many of my clients have huge hearts and have asked “What do I do about all the people in need?” Here’s a few ideas:

1. Looking for the natural opportunities: while donating is wonderful and worthwhile, it can sometimes feel impersonal. Looking for natural ways to give, like getting groceries delivered for a family member, or calling your elderly family who are more shut in.

2. Taking extra care: I’m enjoying the opportunity to mail things to others and including a nice handwritten note. Giving can simply be sending a card and writing an update about your life. I find this mode of communication so heartfelt. 

3. Time: how many of us have more time? How about giving some of ti to others? As we warm up for spring, who needs help with their yard? What can I give myself in way of quiet time or time just sitting under a tree?

Remember I still have CO-PAY FRIDAY in effect as a way to give back. 30-minute sessions for the price of a copay. Please email me or share with friends who you think are in need. Perhaps even gift someone a session?